I want to hold your eye contact to prevent you from looking around, but I can’t. It’s inevitable. I can practically see the sighs building up in your chest.
“Your house is always so clean. I don’t know how you do it.”
I will make a joke about how you shouldn’t open any cupboards or check under the lounge cushions. But you’ll see it as a deflection. You believe my house is clean, even while I see dust is right under your nose.And why?
We’re programmed for comparison and our tendency to want what we don’t have. Sometimes it’s greener grass.
Sometimes it’s being able to walk through the kitchen in our socks and not get them dirty. When you come into my home, you don’t see my mess.
You see your mess missing from my bench tops and your clutter missing from my floors. My mess is still there, but it looks different. To you, my home looks lived in and comfortable (and who’s to say it’s not?).
I’m writing this post not so that you’ll accept that my house is cleaner, but to remind you that it’s time to let those comparisons go. Don’t focus on what your house isn’t. Focus on what it is—a home teeming with love, and life and fingerprints. Tell yourself that permanently clean houses are for people with too much time on their hands and a Clara Care Weekly Cleaning Service.
And, if that doesn’t work, I invite you to stop by my house without giving me a five minutes heads up. You’ll feel better instantly.-